How to find mom friends: A guide to your parent community

Finding your people when you become a parent isn’t just about being able to easily arrange playdates (though that is helpful). It’s about connecting with a community. Whether online or in person, having a support group helps as you navigate caring for a precious tiny human. They become your cheerleaders through all the ups and downs of parenthood.

Finding your support network can feel overwhelming, though, especially during those early days when it feels impossible to think about anything beyond your baby. However, a few simple ways to get started can make the process less intimidating. And it doesn’t have to happen all at once, either. With small steps, you might be surprised by the connections that occur over time. 

Why community matters for parents 

Emotional well-being

Being a new parent can feel lonely, like in those early days when you’re sleep-deprived and still finding a rhythm with your baby. Having a trusted community can remind you that you’re not alone. A support network can also help boost your confidence and reassure you that you’re not doing it all “wrong.” 

Practical support

Sometimes you just need advice. Or someone to watch your baby for 20 minutes so you can drink your coffee while it’s hot. (OK, warm.) It’s easier to ask for the help you need when you have a strong support network in place. 

Celebrating wins and normalizing challenges 

Parenting is both hard and rewarding. Part of the beauty of building your community is normalizing the everyday struggles and triumphs that come with caring for a little one. Celebrating the highs and getting through the lows together can ease feelings of self-doubt and strengthen your connection with those around you. 

Ways to build your community as a parent

Online communities 

There’s a lot to be said about connecting with other parents from the comfort of your couch. Finding your people online can be done whenever you have small pockets of time — and no one has to know you’re in your PJs and haven’t showered in far too long. Plus, casting a wide net is sometimes the preferable option because no matter what you’re going through, you’re bound to find someone in an online community who can relate and offer their support. 

Peanut 

connects women through all stages of motherhood, from fertility through pregnancy and beyond. And you’ll be in good company — over 5.5 million women use the app. One of the great things about it is that you can use it exclusively for an online community or to facilitate in-person meet-ups. Peanut shows you women in your area who are at a similar stage in motherhood (e.g. you’re both 20 weeks pregnant or have 8 month olds) and you can connect once you mutually “wave” at each other. Having the option to turn online connections into IRL friendships can be a meaningful way to build your village, on your time and terms.

You can also participate in 1:1 and group chats, Pods; live Q&As facilitated by experts, and various groups spanning topics such as Maternal Mental Health, Baby Led Weaning, Sleep, Love & Sex, Work & Money, and more.

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Facebook Groups 

If you’re looking for a very specific group of parents to connect with — or a broader perspective on the flip side — there’s probably a Facebook group for that. The social media platform is free and lets you connect with families from across the world or right down the street. It’s also easy to share photos and invites and foster ongoing connections, especially if you join a local group.

Reddit 

If you’ve never tumbled down a Reddit rabbit hole, you’re missing out. This platform is organized around topics (subreddits), making it easy to find focused advice and support on things that matter to you right now — like r/ContactNaps or r/RefluxBabies. You can also search archives and find information that other users have already posted. If you’re looking for various perspectives and support around a specific topic, Reddit may be your jam. 

Local options 

Getting out there in person is great too, if you have the time and energy. Juggling schedules and having that extra mental capacity may not always be an option. However, there are benefits to fostering personal connections in person. It’s also a great chance for kids to connect, whether they’re rolling around together on a playmat or playing at the park. 

Parent-baby classes 

Joining a parent-baby class is one of the most straightforward ways to connect with local parents. Depending on your community, you may find options at places like gyms, preschools, or music and dance studios. Even some shopping centers offer weekly story times that can be a relaxed, low-pressure way to make connections with other parents. Some options may be more structured and require a time and financial commitment, while others function as more casual meetups where the group will likely change each week.   

Community groups 

Places like libraries, rec centers, and even local doctors' offices and hospitals may facilitate parenting groups and park meet-ups. While the groups are often broad, with parents at different stages, the mix of wisdom and support can be grounding.     

Everyday interactions 

Because sometimes you find your people when you’re not necessarily looking for them.  

Chat with someone while running errands

The diaper aisle can be a surprisingly good place to meet other parents. Even if it doesn’t lead to a lifelong friendship, you may walk away with some good product recommendations and, more importantly, a dose of empathy. Sometimes a simple, “Oh yeah, I’ve been there before,” is enough to remind you you’re not alone. 

Hang out at a local coffee shop 

Local coffee shops are often informal gathering places for parents looking for a break from the house and some caffeine. Striking up a conversation with a little, “How old is yours?” can be the first step toward a friendly chat and maybe even exchanging phone numbers.  

Tips for sustaining connections

Set realistic expectations  

Don’t be discouraged if you go to a meet-up and don’t immediately click with someone — that’s often par for the course. A boost of socialization from another adult is a win on its own some days. If you’re looking for deeper connection, give it another try when you’re ready. Your parenting BFF is out there!

Get outside your comfort zone

Small talk doesn’t come naturally to everyone, but it’s often the name of the game when it comes to making new connections, even in the parenting world. Luckily, you have built-in common ground, and they’re probably spitting up all over you while you do it. Most parents have a funny story to share, which can help break the ice when you’re connecting online or in person.

Offer support and receive it too

As you’re seeking your support network, remember that other parents are looking for a connection as well! Even if you feel like a newbie, chances are you have more empathy and encouragement to give than you realize. That support can be meaningful to someone else, too.