Newborn hates the swaddle: What to do and alternative approaches

Some newborns melt into a swaddle like it’s a warm hug, while others fight it with the strength of a tiny wrestler. If your newborn hates being swaddled, you’re not alone — and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. Let’s look at why some babies resist wrapping, along with some safe alternatives that can still help your baby settle in for a restful snooze. 

Is it normal for my newborn to hate swaddling?

Yes, it’s absolutely normal for some newborns to dislike . Some babies love the cozy wrap, while others can’t stand the sensation. Swaddling is intended to calm newborns by mimicking the snug fit of the womb, but it’s not a mandatory practice, and many babies sleep soundly without it []. The key is responsive caregiving: Notice what your baby prefers and adapt, while keeping in mind.

Why do some babies resist swaddling?

Understanding a few common reasons for swaddle resistance can help you troubleshoot and find what works best, whether that’s adjusting your go-to wrapping technique, switching to a softer fabric, or trying a new sleep approach altogether.

Common reasons include:

• Improper technique: A swaddle that’s too loose can feel insecure, while one that’s too snug at the hips or shoulders can be uncomfortable.

• Timing: Some babies protest being wrapped when overtired or overstimulated, but calm down once fully swaddled and settled.

• Temperature discomfort: If the room is warm or the fabric isn’t breathable, your baby may get too hot.

• Preference for movement: Some babies simply like having their arms or legs free.

• Developmental changes: At around 2 - 3 months, babies often want their hands out or may begin preparing to roll, making swaddling less soothing over time.

1. Physical discomfort

If your baby consistently fusses, arches their back, or fights the swaddle right after being wrapped, they may be physically uncomfortable in a swaddle. A swaddle that’s too tight (especially after a feeding) can feel restrictive [], while certain fabrics may irritate sensitive skin or cause overheating. Some babies may simply prefer a little more freedom to stretch. 

Behavioral signs that point to discomfort and discontent with the swaddle include:

• Crying or fussing right after being swaddled

• Squirming, fidgeting, or trying to break free by kicking or pulling hands out

• Calming quickly once the swaddle is removed

Physical signs to look for:

• Sweating, damp hair, flushed cheeks, or rapid breathing, which may indicate

• Red marks or skin irritation around the arms, legs, or chest

• The swaddle is too tight: You should be able to slide two fingers between the swaddle and your baby’s chest comfortably

• Restricted hips or legs: Baby’s legs should be able to bend and move naturally

If you notice any of these things, settle your baby and try wrapping again when they’ve calmed. Sometimes using a looser wrap (the swaddle should be snug but not tight), lighter fabric, or an arms-out approach may help. If they still aren’t into it after a few tries, feel free to ditch the swaddle.

2. Preference for movement

Newborn babies experience something called the Moro (startle) reflex — those sudden arm-and-leg flings that can briefly wake them []. Swaddling often helps many babies feel secure during these movements, but some little ones simply prefer having more room to wiggle []. If your baby fusses when their arms or legs are contained and seems calmer once they’re free to move, they may do better with an arms-out or arms-up style that honors their natural preference for mobility.

3. Overheating

Swaddled babies may get warm fast, so it’s essential to keep an eye on temperature. Since babies can’t regulate their body temperature as well as adults can [], consider the temperature of the, the swaddle wrap’s material and thickness, and what your baby is wearing underneath. 

In warmer environments, try a thin cotton blanket swaddle over a short-sleeve onesie. In cooler weather and spaces, long-sleeved footie pajamas under the swaddle can help your baby stay cozy without overheating.

Signs your baby may be too hot include:

• Sweating

• Damp hair 

• Flushed cheeks

• Heat rash

• Rapid breathing 

If your baby gets too warm, continue monitoring their temperature. If they seem unusually flushed, lethargic, or irritable, or if symptoms don’t improve, reach out to your pediatrician to rule out heat-related illness [].

4. Incorrect wrapping techniques

Sometimes it’s not the swaddle itself — . A swaddle that’s too loose can come undone, creating a safety risk from loose fabric in the crib, while one that’s too tight (especially around the chest or hips) can feel uncomfortable and restrict healthy movement [].

Aim for a snug but flexible fit: You should be able to fit two fingers between your baby’s chest and the blanket, and their hips should move freely []. Practice when your baby is calm, and use a lightweight blanket or transitional swaddle to make wrapping easier and safer.

How do I know if my baby truly dislikes the swaddle?

It’s common for newborns to protest a bit during wrapping, but there’s a difference between brief fussiness and true swaddle resistance. Before deciding your baby “hates” the swaddle, make sure you’ve experimented with timing (swaddling before they’re overtired or overstimulated) and technique (snug but flexible fit, breathable fabric). If you’ve tried those tweaks and still see these signs, your baby may simply prefer to sleep without being swaddled.

1. They cry or fuss immediately when swaddled

It’s normal for babies to fuss a little during the wrapping process. But if your baby consistently cries the moment the blanket touches them — and stays upset until you unwrap them — it may be a sign that this style of swaddle isn’t working. Trying a different fabric, wrapping style, or arms-out option can help you figure out whether it’s the swaddle or the timing of the wrap.

2. They calm quickly when unwrapped

If your baby settles almost instantly once you unwrap them, the swaddle itself may be part of the issue. A helpful test: pause mid-wrap and free one arm (or both) to see if they relax. If their body softens, breathing slows, or they stop fussing, they may simply prefer more mobility. In that case, exploring an arms-out or arms-up style is a good next step.

3. They consistently struggle or break free

If your baby wriggles, arches, or pulls Houdini-level escapes every time they’re wrapped, they may prefer more movement. Persistent escape attempts usually mean they feel restricted or uncomfortable. A loose or half-undone swaddle can also become a safety concern, since loose fabric in the crib increases the risk of it covering a baby’s face []. If this happens often, it’s safest to switch to an arms-out wrap or a zip-up sleep sack designed to stay secure.

Is it safe for a newborn to sleep without a swaddle?

Yes it’s absolutely safe for your newborn to sleep without a swaddle, and many babies do. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) notes that swaddling can help soothe some babies, but it’s not required for good sleep []. 

Safe sleeping habits, whether or not you swaddle

If your baby sleeps better unwrapped, that’s completely OK! Comfort looks different for every little one. What matters most is creating a sleep space that feels safe and supportive. Babies sleep safest on their backs, on a firm, flat surface like a .

To keep things simple and safe, the AAP suggests [] keeping the sleep area free of loose blankets, pillows, and until your baby turns 12 months old. (without bed-sharing) during the first six months can make nighttime care easier while still giving your baby their own protected sleep space. Whether you choose a swaddle, a sleep sack, or no wrap at all, these habits help set the stage for safer, more restful sleep for everyone.

A note on bedsharing and swaddling safety

It’s important to note that while some families choose to bedshare after learning the risks, swaddling during bedsharing further increases those risks []. If you choose to bedshare, skip the swaddle entirely to keep your baby’s sleep environment as safe as possible.

Tips to calm a baby who fights the swaddle

Some babies just need a little extra help learning to love (or at least tolerate) being wrapped. Timing, environment, and a relaxing routine can all help your little one settle in for the swaddle. And even if your newborn never warms up to swaddling, these same strategies can help them learn foundational for some quality shuteye.

1. Check timing and routine

Trying to swaddle a baby who’s already is like trying to fasten a seatbelt on a moving car. Ideally, the best time to swaddle your baby is when they are calm and drowsy, but still awake. A consistent also helps signal that it’s time to rest.

A sample calming sleep sequence might be:

• Dimming the lights

• Feeding

• Diaper change

• Swaddling before laying your baby down in their sleep space

• Rocking gently or swaying together

• Singing or humming a soft lullaby

2. Use soothing techniques

If your baby fights the swaddle, try layering in other calming methods to help them feel secure. , gentle rocking, rhythmic pats, or a pacifier can all work together to help your baby ease into sleep. These strategies can be especially effective when paired with modified swaddling, such as wrapping just one arm or using an arms-out approach.

As we often remind parents, newborn sleep is often irregular — and that’s normal! It’s rarely one magic trick that helps babies relax and drift off for a snooze, but rather a combination of approaches unique to your baby and family. Experiment until you find what feels most comforting for your little one and be prepared to pivot. What works one day may not work the next. You’re both learning and changing and a rhythm often develops with time. 

3. Experiment with arms-out wrapping

If your baby hates having their arms tucked in, it’s OK to meet them halfway. Try a modified wrapping technique with one arm out first, then both arms out once they seem ready []. Arms-out wrapping preserves some of swaddling’s calming benefits while giving your baby more control over their movements. 

You can use a lightweight muslin blanket for a DIY approach, or try transitional swaddles and sleep sacks designed for this stage (like those with adjustable wings or zip-off sleeves).

4. Adjust the sleep environment

A room that’s too warm, bright, or noisy can make it harder for your baby to settle, no matter how cozy the wrap. Aim for a cool temperature, dim lighting, and steady background noise (like a white noise machine) to mimic the womb’s comforting environment.

Minor tweaks like these can make a difference in how your baby responds to swaddling. Using the Huckleberry app to note sleep timing and any changes you’ve made can help you spot patterns and fine-tune what works best for your baby.

Alternative approaches for babies who hate swaddling

If your baby just isn’t a swaddle fan, don’t worry! Many babies prefer a little more room to move. There are plenty of safe, effective ways to help them feel cozy and secure without a full wrap. Transitional products — like arms-up swaddles, zip-up suits, and wearable blankets — offer gentle containment while allowing more natural movement. These options give your baby the snug, womb-like feel of a swaddle without the same level of restriction, which can make sleep more comfortable for babies who resist traditional wraps.

1. Sleep sacks or wearable blankets

Sleep sacks are a favorite go-to for babies who resist traditional swaddling. They’re designed to keep your baby warm and comfortable while allowing natural movement, helping prevent the risks associated with loose blankets. 

2. Transitional products 

Many styles offer arms-in, arms-out, or arms-up options to match your baby’s preferences and developmental stage. For babies who don’t like being swaddled, we often recommend trying arms-up swaddling or transitional products like the Zipadee-Zip or Magic Merlin (which is not weighted). These options safely limit movement just enough to support better sleep.

3. Contact naps and safe cuddling 

If your newborn sleeps best in your arms, you’re not alone. Newborn babies usually need help falling asleep, and your touch is soothing to your little one. — when your baby sleeps on your chest or in your arms while you remain awake and alert — are a common (and cozy!) solution for babies who dislike swaddling. They can help regulate your baby’s heart rate, temperature, and stress levels while deepening your bond, especially when snuggling skin-to-skin []. 

It can be hard to hold your baby for every nap, especially when you need rest or a break yourself. If you choose contact naps, try to stay awake and rest in a safe position — ideally in a chair or bed with a firm, flat surface rather than a couch or recliner, which increases the risk of suffocation. When you’re ready to transfer your baby to their crib or bassinet, wait until their breathing is slow and steady and their limbs feel relaxed. A warm hand on their chest for a few seconds after you set them down can help them stay settled.

4. Layered pajamas

If your baby dislikes being wrapped but still needs warmth, thoughtful layering can provide that cozy feeling without any restriction. Instead of multiple pairs of pajamas, think in simple, breathable layers, like a short-sleeve onesie under pajamas, or pajamas paired with a light sleep sack if the room runs cooler. This setup keeps your baby comfortable while still allowing them to move freely.

For babies with sensitive skin, choosing gentle, breathable fabrics makes a big difference. Great options include:

• Organic cotton: soft, hypoallergenic, and easy to wash

• Bamboo: ultra-smooth, moisture-wicking, and temperature-balancing

• Soft merino wool: naturally breathable and warm without overheating

Aim for a cool room temperature and adjust layers accordingly. The goal is warmth without the snugness of a swaddle, without adding bulk or restricting your baby’s natural movements.

When and how to transition away from swaddling

Signs it’s time to transition away from swaddling

Every baby eventually , whether it brought them calm or frustration. Knowing when to make that shift helps keep your baby safe while supporting smoother sleep transitions.

Below are the most common signs your baby is ready to move on:

1. Rolling

This one’s a big safety alert. As soon as your baby starts rolling — or even showing early signs, like twisting their hips, lifting their chest, or rocking side to side — it’s time to stop swaddling and let those new movements happen safely []. A swaddled baby who rolls onto their stomach is at higher risk for suffocation.

Most babies reach these stages between 2 - 6 months, but every baby develops on their own timeline []. 

2. Moro reflex lessens

The Moro (startle) reflex naturally fades over the first few months of life, so you may notice your baby isn’t startling as dramatically as before. While this reflex fading isn’t necessarily a sign you must stop swaddling, it can make the transition smoother. If your baby’s sleep seems more settled and they’re no longer waking from sudden startles, consider experimenting with an arms-out or transitional swaddle at your own pace.

3. New resistance 

If your little one initially liked the swaddle then suddenly began fighting every wrap or breaking free mid-nap, they’re sending a message that it’s time for a change. Persistent wriggling or fussing often means your baby is ready for more movement and independence during sleep.

4. Signs of growing independence

Around 3 months and older, many babies start bringing their hands to their mouths or sucking on their fingers to self-soothe. If your baby is showing more interest in using their hands to calm themselves, an arms-out or arms-up approach can support this new developmental skill and make sleep feel more natural and comfortable.

How to transition out of swaddling 

Once your baby starts showing signs they’re ready, you can begin making the switch gradually. A slow, safe transition helps your little one adjust to newfound freedom while still feeling comfy and secure. However, if your baby is rolling or signaling that rolling is right around the milestone corner, stop swaddling cold turkey. 

1. Plan ahead and start small

It helps to start easing out of the swaddle before your baby shows signs of rolling. Making small changes early — like trying one arm out during a calm bedtime — gives your baby time to practice sleeping with more freedom while everything still feels familiar. That way, when rolling does begin, you can make the full transition confidently and safely.

2. Begin at bedtime (then move to naps)

Try your first arm-out session at bedtime, when sleep pressure is highest and your baby is most likely to settle. Once nighttime sleep habits feel a little more consistent, practice the same setup for the first nap of the day.

3. Expect a short adjustment period

Even small changes can bring a few fussy nights. Stay consistent and give your baby about a week or two to adapt. You can offer extra soothing with gentle rocking, white noise, or a calming hand on their chest as they get used to a new routine.

4. Use a transitional product

If your baby still seems restless, consider a transitional swaddle or sleep sack that offers gentle containment while allowing safe movement. Products like the Love to Dream Swaddle UP or Zipadee-Zip suit can bridge the gap between full swaddling and arms-free sleep.

5. Keep the sleep environment consistent

Maintain a familiar sleep setup that’s cool, dark, and calm as your baby adjusts. White noise can help smooth out startles and mimic the soothing sounds of the womb. Tracking sleep patterns in the Huckleberry app can help you spot progress and fine-tune routines over time.

Takeaway

• Some newborns simply don’t enjoy being swaddled — and that’s completely OK!

• Understanding a few common reasons babies resist swaddling can help you troubleshoot with more confidence and less stress.

• Safe alternatives like arms-out wraps, transitional swaddles, and sleep sacks can offer comfort without restriction.

• Need a little extra help? Track your baby’s sleep patterns or explore personalized support through Huckleberry Premium. Our personalized sleep plans can help you navigate your baby’s sleep challenges and find what works best for your family.