4 nap time tips for parents with multiple children
We know how challenging it can be to juggle the needs of more than one child. Every day we hear from parents who want to improve sleep, but also know they can’t stay home all day to make sure their baby gets all of their naps in the crib. We get it! Even if you only have one child it can be maddening to feel bound to the house day in and day out due to those short wake windows.
It’s also common to hear that when families do stay home, it’s still difficult to give the baby a nap because the older sibling makes a lot of noise and/or needs attention. We can relate to that too!
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4 tips for surviving nap time when you have two or more children:
1. Offer earlier bedtimes when your child has a short nap (or skips it entirely)
If you’re actively working on changing routines at night (moving away from rocking to sleep or transitioning away from co-sleeping for example), then we recommend prioritizing naps for a week or two. This will help ensure that your child is well rested, which will cut down on tears and night waking as you work on changing habits.
However, if you’re not starting anything new at night, it’s understandable that you’ll need to have some flexibility with your child’s nap schedule. Whether you’ve got a baby sign language class at the library in the morning or your older children have soccer practice after school, things come up and you can’t always be at home to offer a nap.
Aim for at least one good nap at home per day if you can. Overtiredness tends to cause disrupted sleep, so we want to limit it as much as possible. If another nap is a short one in the car, or it’s missed entirely, offer the next sleep period a bit earlier to minimize overtiredness.
2. Prepare quiet boxes to keep toddlers and preschoolers occupied
If you have a baby and a toddler (or preschooler) you know that it can be hard to keep big sibling entertained while little sibling goes down for a nap.
Preparing several “quiet boxes” ahead of time, to keep your toddler busy, can work wonders! We recommend getting a few inexpensive, lidded bins and stuffing them with activities that your older child can do on their own while you’re occupied with the baby.
For instance, you might include: crayons and paper, stickers, puzzles, books, cars and figurines. As long as the toys haven’t been played with a lot before (and the bins are continually rotated and kept out of sight during the rest of the day), they’ll feel special and be able to hold your child’s attention.
3. Embrace white (or “pink”) noise to muffle sounds
While some families worry about adding in background noise for fear that their child will always “need it,” we find that continual white or pink noise in a child’s bedroom can do a great job of helping to mask household sounds. This can be especially helpful for siblings that share a room or have bedrooms in close proximity.
Likewise, if you’re out with your children and one falls asleep in the stroller, using a portable white noise player can help drown out the sounds in the environment and lengthen the nap.
4. Understand your child’s temperament
For many families, a flexible schedule is really important. While most children thrive on routine and regular naps, some are more adaptable than others when it comes to varied nap times. If you have a child who can easily go with the flow, then you can probably be more flexible about naps.
However, there are also children that are less adaptable and are very sensitive to being overtired. For those children, one missed nap due to a special event can cause a day or more of extra crankiness and disrupted sleep. If your child’s temperament makes flexibility difficult, you’ll want to be sure to choose wisely when it comes to skipping a nap.
Takeaway
When you have multiple children, it can be impossible to make sure everyone gets enough day sleep sometimes. That’s just life! We do the best we can and understand that naps can always be prioritized the next day as needed.
Nap time for multiple children FAQ
Q: How can you handle nap time when traveling with multiple children?
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When it comes to sleep and traveling with multiple children, try to keep naptime routines consistent and make their sleep spaces feel as much like home as possible — bring comfort items from home (if a child is old enough) and use a white noise machine and portable blackout shades if that’s what they’re accustomed to. You may want to bring activities for older children to do while you’re helping younger children during nap time. It can be frustrating when sleep schedules are thrown off while traveling, but try to remember that you’ll recommit when you get back home and this is a temporary setback!
Q: What are some strategies for synchronizing nap schedules for multiple children?
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Once your children are on regular sleep schedules, you may be able to align at least one of their naps and/or their bedtimes depending on their ages and specific sleep needs. You can try things like setting up a consistent wake up time for all kids and adjusting nap times to overlap for even a short period. While sleep times may not always perfectly sync every day, even a little overlap can make a big difference for busy caregivers!
Q: How can you create a nap-friendly environment outside the home?
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If your child will be napping outside of their sleep space at home, try your best to make their new environment feel familiar. Consider bringing comfort items from home (like pillows, blankets, and comfort items if the child is old enough), white noise machines, and portable blackout shades if that’s what your little one is accustomed to at nap time.
Q: What are the best ways to manage nap times of multiple children?
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Navigating multiple nap times in a day can be a challenge for caregivers, especially as older children transition from 1 - 0 naps and younger siblings still need daytime sleep. For older kids who are no longer napping, try implementing a quiet rest period during the younger one’s nap time so that everyone gets a restorative break. Try a “busy box” with age-appropriate activities for younger kids if you need them to be occupied for a few minutes while you tend to a sibling during their naptime.
Q: What should you do if one child consistently wakes up the other during nap time?
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Juggling the needs of multiple children can be tricky, especially when they have different nap times. If one child often wakes up the other during the day, consider using a white (or “pink”) noise machine to muffle household sounds. You might also try setting up children with “quiet boxes” filled with age-appropriate toys and activities to do while a sibling is sleeping, like arts and crafts, books, and figurines. Be sure to rotate the contents of the boxes fairly often to keep children interested.
Note: The content on this site is for informational purposes only and should not replace medical advice from your doctor, pediatrician, or medical professional. If you have questions or concerns, you should contact a medical professional.
